Tonight, I had someone seek my advice on something that hits very close to home. While the situation itself was different on the surface, at its core was miscommunication. It was a girl desperately trying to express how she feels, but not willing to listen to how the other person feels. Not knowing the girl in the scenario, I could only speak on generalities of the female sex, which is always a hit or miss. But the part that struck me the most was how the other person readily admitted to me that he felt like nothing he ever did was good enough for her. Getting a small insight into the mind of a frustrated man who wants to be everything that she wants AND still be himself was extremely enlightening.
As females, we tend to only look at things by how it makes us feel, and so we can tend to make larger deals out of things that men never would think twice about. To that same degree, men may feel something, but for their own reasons, never admit to feeling that and make decisions based on facts and hold back emotion in order to follow through with that decision. Ladies, please believe me when I say that I'm not trying to give away all the secrets of how we operate...trust me, I don't even understand why I do the things I do sometimes. But we've got to start recognizing that we communicate differently than men, and men need to realize the same. I hate using the word compromise, because sometimes it gives out a negative connotation of "giving in" to the other person just for the sake of stopping the argument. But if we start recognizing that men do, in fact, what to be the best they can be for us, then maybe we can start trying to reach a point of understanding. I think that would change the dynamic of a lot of would-be great relationships that are on the verge of destruction.
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